Ross Jeffries: Founder of Speed Seduction and Community Dynamics

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Ross Jeffries, a forty-four-year-old self-proclaimed 'guru of gash,' is credited with nearly single-handedly establishing the modern seduction community. His journey began in his twenties, marked by frustration over failed stand-up comedy and screenwriting ambitions, leading him to discover Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP) through the book 'Frogs Into Princes.' He adopted NLP, viewing it as his personal 'magic ring' akin to the Green Lantern, which allowed him to end a period of involuntary chastity by seducing a woman, thereby gaining the power and control he felt he had lacked throughout his life.

Jeffries launched his professional pickup career with a 70-page self-published book, 'How to Get the Women You Desire Into Bed: A Down and Dirty Guide to Dating and Seduction for the Man Who's Fed Up With Being Mr. Nice Guy,' sold initially through classified ads in magazines like Playboy. His expansion into seminars and internet marketing, with student Louis DePayne creating the newsgroup alt.seduction.fast, cemented his role as the groundwork layer for the international PUA cabal. He adopted a combative stance against rivals, demanding allegiance and even threatening to expose competitors' online activities to their parents or schools, as evidenced by his bitter rivalry with former student David DeAngelo, whom he accused of stealing his methods after a personal dispute.

His seminars, often held in uninspiring hotel conference rooms, featured techniques like the 'hypnotic use of quotes'—introducing patterns with phrases like 'My friend was telling me' to bypass a woman's critical mind. Despite his social struggles and competitive paranoia, particularly regarding Mystery, he passionately believed in helping his students, many of whom he felt were abused, estimating 20 percent. However, his public behavior could be disastrous, as seen when he acted as a 'gay lover' or crawled on all fours behind a celebrity at a party, revealing a man deeply affected by social setbacks and driven by a need for dominance and recognition.